One thing that features in practically every wedding, whether it’s a Scottish wedding or not, are the speeches. Often a source or amusement and sometimes a bit of an embarrassment, writing a speech is a stressful thing in itself and the delivery can be nerve-wracking.
There is a general format to the speeches and this is what we will discuss here, however there is no reason why you can’t alter the order of the speeches if you chose to. Whether or not you have a Master of Ceremonies to announce each speaker will make a difference too. I have been to wedding where the Best Man acted as Master of Ceremonies, introducing each speaker in turn, and this is a nice way to ease nerves for him as it allows a little crowd interaction before he has to deliver the full speech.
The first speaker is generally the father of the bride, or the person who gave the bride away. This speech is often seen as the more boring of them, with a lot of formalities and not many jokes, however this doesn’t always need to be the case. The speech given by the father of one of my best friends at his wedding in Greece was hilarious and went down a storm, so if you are delivering this speech don’t feel you have to conform to the stereotype. You should try to include the following points if you can as these are often overlooked by others as it’s expected they will be covered here:
* Thank the guests for coming and sharing in the special day. Remember to mention anyone who has come a long distance, and also those who could not be there. This can be a sensitive area if someone isn’t there due to not be alive any more so bear this in mind if you start with a belly busting joke and follow up with the sad fact that Granny Smith didn’t live long enough to be there….
* Thank anyone who made any financial contribution to the wedding. Less popular these days due to the number of weddings paid for by the bride and groom, but if you are aware that others made a contribution you can thank them for their ‘support’.
* Tell the bride how proud you are of her. A great chance to get the bride squirming before you spill the beans on her childhood.
* Welcome the groom into the family. Again, a good chance to crack a few jokes and liven things up a touch.
* Reminisce about the bride’s pre-wedding years. Here is where the speech can really come into its own and stand out from all those monotonous speeches we all expect at this stage. Humour here will be the thing everyone remembers so don’t be shy with the anecdotes.
* Wish the newly-weds success and happiness in the future
* Finally, propose a toast to the bride and groom.
We’ll now move on to look at the groom’s speech.